So I saw a post on Instagram earlier, and apparently, 9/4 is World Sexual Health Day.

Who knew?

‘Cause I damn sure didn’t.

(This actually reminds me of when I found out about April.)

Anywho, I actually feel bad that I don’t know these things because how will anyone take me seriously as a Sexologist in Public Health? And I don’t even know the ‘…

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As National Wellness Month comes to an end, it is easy to think of wellness as something we focus on for a season.

A month dedicated to healthier choices.

A reminder to slow down.

An opportunity to restart routines we may have neglected.

Wellness is not a challenge to complete; it is a rel…

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When many people think about wellness, they think about what they need to add to their lives:

• A healthier diet.

• A new workout routine.

• More sleep.

• A better morning routine.

But sometimes, wellness is not about adding something new; it’s about removing what constantly takes from you.

Protec…

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Wellness is often celebrated when it is visible.

We applaud the person who completes a marathon.

We admire the dramatic transformation.

We notice the glowing vacation photos, the new fitness routine, or the perfectly curated morning routine shared online.

But...

No one claps when you go to bed early.

No one celebrates when you schedule your annu…

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When people hear the words self-care, they often imagine spa days, massages, vacations, scented candles, or bubble baths.

While there’s nothing wrong with enjoying those things, they’ve become the face of wellness in a way that’s misleading:

• Self-care can be relaxing.

• Self-maintenance is essential.

The difference matters.

A manicure may make yo…

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Some of us became experts at survival long before we ever learned what healing looked like.

Survival is instinctive; it’s what we do when life feels unsafe, uncertain, or overwhelming. It helps us adapt to difficult environments, navigate disappointment, and endure painful experiences.

Many p…

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Every August, National Wellness Month serves as a reminder to prioritize our physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Founded by Live Love Spa in 2018, the initiative encourages people to adopt healthy habits that support long-term wellness, not just during the month, but throughout the year.

When many people think about wellness, they p…

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The internet doesn’t have an influencer problem.

It has a trust problem.

For more than a decade, influencers have shaped how we shop, what we buy, and what we believe is “worth it.” Scroll through any social platform and you’ll see the same formula: perfect lighting, a glowing review, and a carefully placed discount code.

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So I was scrolling through Tubi last week and I happened to come across this movie called Promiscuously Toxic. I figured it would be entertaining like other modern urban dramas on the platform, but I was not expecting what I got.

(I forgot all of the characters’ names except the main character, Marcus and his “karma” Angel/Shay, but I’ll try to explain e…

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It’s tax season, and as I’m filing mine, I’m looking through my records from the past decade or so and it’s very clear that I’ve had a lot of jobs. There's a recurring theme here, and I’m learning what truly makes me happy. As far as work goes, at least.

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Hi guys! 💕

I know it’s been a while, but I wanted to tell you that I made it to the Quarter Finals for Playboy’s latest talent search! If I win, I could be featured on the Inside Cover of their magazine or even become Playmate of the Year!

This may seem random to my newcomers, and not-so-random for those who have followed me for a while. But this journey is deeply personal in more ways than one, and I’m inviting you into my world to share.

Playboy: A Brand, A Movement, A Lifestyle

Playboy has a long history of celebrating the vast and varying beauty of women. Not just in how we look, but in how we express ourselves. From its earliest issues, it wasn’t just a magazine; it was a cultural space where women could be bold, artistic, and unapologetic about their sexuality. That spirit still exists today with their latest project, The Playboy Club, a digital platform that’s quickly curating a community where modern-day ideals of sexual identity thrive. As a Playboy Creator, I appreciate how the platform lets us tell our stories in our own way. Every contributor has a unique angle, and the platform celebrates it.

Playboy began in 1953, during a time when America was buttoned-up, conservative, and terrified of women’s freedom. The idea that a woman could pose nude because she wanted to, and not because she was forced to, was shocking. That was Playboy’s rebellion. It wasn’t just about naked bodies; it was about choice.

Over time, Playboy pushed boundaries in ways that are often overlooked. It featured interviews with civil rights leaders like Malcolm X and Martin Luther King Jr., published groundbreaking journalistic pieces, and gave space to artists, writers, and thinkers who challenged social norms. It also gave contemporary women a platform to embrace their sexuality without apology, long before words like “sex-positive” were a thing.

From its rebellious beginnings in print to the digital freedom of The Playboy Club today, the core mission remains the same: celebrating women’s autonomy, creativity, and self-expression. Playboy has grown from a magazine to a permanent fixture in pop culture because of its daring approach to highlighting what most try to leave in the dark. You can’t talk about cultural evolution , or revolution, without mentioning Playboy.

Black Women, Beauty, and Visibility in Playboy

Since slavery, Black women in the United States have been burdened by dehumanizing stereotypes designed to control and justify racial and sexual oppression. One of the most enduring is the “Jezebel” caricature which portrayed Black women as innately lascivious, promiscuous, and sexually available.

This stereotype served several strategic purposes during slavery and beyond:

1. To justify sexual violence: Enslavers claimed that Black women “couldn’t be raped” because they were “always willing” or “provocative.”

2. To deny trauma: By framing sexual violence as consensual or “deserved,” it erased the reality of assault and stripped Black women of the right to be seen as victims.

3. To enforce social control: After emancipation, this narrative persisted to punish Black women who expressed sexuality outside narrow norms of respectability.

Prominent scholars such as Patricia Hill Collins, bell hooks, and Melissa Harris-Perry have written extensively about this. Collins, in Black Feminist Thought, explains that the Jezebel image denied Black women the right to sexual self-definition (1990).

Many Black women have experienced what psychologists call racialized sexual trauma: a trauma shaped, not only by personal violation, but also by historical narratives that distort and shame Black womanhood.

As a result, generations of Black women were socially conditioned to perform modesty to avoid being labeled, judged, or made targets even when that meant suppressing natural sensuality or self-expression.

Part of reclaiming sexual expression and autonomy for Black women is putting our beauty on full display, celebrating it where history tried to erase, silence, or confine it. Playboy has always supported this effort. Features from Jennifer Jackson, Jean Bell, and Darine Stern broke barriers for Black women in the reclamation of our personal identities.

Positionality: How This All Relates to Me

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I just published my first note on Substack Notes, and would love for you to join me there!

Notes is a new space on Substack for us to share links, short posts, quotes, photos, and more. I plan to use it for things that don’t fit in the newsletter, like work-in-progress or quick questions.

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I wasn’t gonna say anything, but I’m glad TikTok got banned.

And not for the reasons y’all think.

It was banned by Congress because of national security reasons — and rightfully so — but admittedly, I don’t give a fuck about that.

The reason why I’m glad TikTok is banne…

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Aside from being my birthstone, diamonds hold special meaning for me.

They say it takes pressure to make one, so no other stone is appropriate for me. White Diamonds being my first favorite fragrance is so fitting; I was gifted the perfume when I was in first grade and it will always be one of my signatures. It’s such a classic! (Thank you,

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With all this Diddy drama going on, I’ve been wondering:

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So I’m sitting here listening to Christmas carols, and I’m having the smoothest holiday I’ve had in a minute. These songs have me reminiscing on what Christmas Eve was like when I was child.

Everything is so different now.

For one, I’m an adult.

But also…

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So a while ago, I wrote a blog on Medium about stress spending.

I still think it’s a great coping mechanism; however, since writing that post, I realized something.

I really haven’t shopped much these past few years.

The irony is that I just survived the most stressful time period in my young adult life, so I should’ve spend a significant amount of money. All things considered, I should have a lot of new stuff.

Recently, I went to Victoria’s Secret, and that’s when it hit me:

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If there’s anything I learned about research, it’s that the things you’re most passionate about have a way of being thrown back on your face.

It’s like, your lived experience is either a stark contrast from what’s in the literature, triggers an epiphanic episode, or “cannot be proven” because it was never researched. So what does that mean for someone like me?

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I don’t know how spiritual you may be, but today is a whole portal. It’s the 11th day of the 11th month, so you know what that means… Right?

Angel number 1111 signifies spiritual support, as in you are supported in your aspirations and endeavors. The Universe is conspiring in your favor. Everything is destined to go your way. ✨

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